> I've come to think that even these traumas are somehow necessary...
Teresa makes an important point here; one that should not be missed. In
this era trauma has become a bad word. It is difficult even to begin to
accept that there might be desirable aspects to trauma. And yet, this very
thought has crossed, and fled, my mind a couple of times this year. It's
good to come back to it.
Clearly, trauma is not the type of experience to be incorporated into a
teaching style or a curriculum. But it occurs in life and it brings
benefits along with the pain --IF we can find our way to them.
I recall a chinese aphorism to the effect that children are like
bean sprouts that the flourish under pressure (Bean Sprout are
traditionally grown in a bucket with a lid resting on the beans/sprouts
and a heavy rock upon the lid) This reflects one traditional viewpoint
and a relatively authoritarian one at that. It also, I think, reflects a
number of observations along the lines of Teresa's.
Again I write this not as an advocate of pressure or trauma but as an
observation that, while it may run a bit against the grain, it might be
useful to be a bit Pollyannaish and to acknowledge those strengths that
can come, perhaps ONLY, through (unpleasant?) struggles.
It's something to think about.