With my kids I find having them write out their version of the events
helps, it lets people cool off. I have two boys that are constantly in
conflict. They both have detention tomorrow; because they wouldn't
settle down to settle the problem. Then we talk about what happened.
Next they write out a plan to help them deal with future problems.
From: Fields, Linda [mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org]
Sent: Tuesday, September 24, 2002 7:34 AM
To: ArtsEdNet Talk
Subject: hallway talks
In response to Doris' post, Bunki wrote, "First thing...make eye
they are not looking at your face, they are not listening. "
I must respectfully add here, that Doris will have to determine if this
appropriate for her situation. Although for most of us, making eye
indicates both attention and respect, in some cultures it conveys the
opposite. I learned this as a young teacher dealing with island
children-they were taught that to show respect to an adult one's eyes
Otherwise, I completely agree with Bunki's advice. Linda in NC