my standard reply to the questions , "what should i put here?" or, "what
color should i use for this?" is, " if i were to chose that then it would be
my atrwork not yours."
some of my students have heard this so often that when some one asks me one
of those questions i often hear in unison," if she were to chose that then..."
when i hear, " i can't" i make them say out loud, " i can, but i am finding
it difficult right now."
(these things are always said with kindness)