I'v worked with 7th graders for over 13 years. Whining reaches a fine art
form with that age group. Some of my strategies are:
"It's not fair." Teacher response: "I did it because I love him/her best"
"Would you like some cheese with that whine?"
"You call that whining? The kids from (name the rival elementary school)
whine much better than that!"
"Come on, that whine needs more lower lip in it." "Can you make that lip
quiver at the same time?"
Obviously these retorts are all said with a great big smile!
Alix E. Peshette
Emerson Junior High School
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Sent: Tuesday, October 01, 2002 4:40 PM
To: ArtsEdNet Talk
Subject: Re: What about kids who whine? Suggestions?
Irene, your co-worker is right! Also, whenever I hear "that's not fair", I
say "and your point is......". I recently attended a workshop where the
instructor compared teachers to doctors. With 3 volunteers she demonstrated
how "fair" is relative. The story went "one patient has a headache, one a
broken leg, and one has appendicitis. The doctor wants to be fair so he
gives all 3 an asprin. In real life this isn't fair. Each patient has unique
needs and the doctor needs to treat each one accordingly. Likewise, all of
my students have different needs and I need to treat each one to best
benefit their needs."
If it's only one or two students whining, just tell them you'll discuss it
when they can speak in a mature voice. Then do it!
> A co-worker told me to stop wasting my money on things like stickers,
> birthday certificates, candy, little prizes--she said that will help stop
> some of the whining.
> Suggestions are welcome!