I have a funny story, but first the serious stuff: My advice is to keep a
log of the behavior of the child for the parent who defends his/her child no
matter what. Record the date, time, and incident. Collect any physical evidence
that the child is not being as sucessful as he or she can be. (That's how I
like to state it to the parents.) It might come in handy someday when you need
cold, hard facts, or physical evidence!
Last year I had a 5th grade boy who, in his own quiet way, was a sneeky
troublemaker. His table seemed not on task, so I strolled by and casually picked
up the sculpture he had created..A life size male private part. Actually, it
was beautifully sculpted, in perfect proportion, and complete in every way. I
held it up, examined it in a matter-or-fact way, looked him right in the eye,
and commented on his fine sculpting ability. However, I reminded him that he
was off-task and needed to complete the goals of the class. I added that I
would keep his creation for a sample, in case his Mom had a question about his
artwork or behavior in art. Inside, I was laughing hysterically, but my
straight face could have won me an Academy Award!
So, now this thing is in my desk drawer all year. Whenever "little Johnny"
was becoming a behavior issue, I would call him over to my desk, pull out his
sculpture, hold it up, and not say a word. He actually has a mother with the
"not MY son" attitude, so don't think that I wouldn't have used this as
"exhibit A" in a case of defending myself. Never got to that point (LOL..no pun
intended), though, because his behavior improved significantly after this
Susan still laughing on Long Island