Yes maam and yes sir are how I answer my kids when they have questions and
I'm on-the-fly! It also covers the fact that I have anywhere from 160 -190
kids a quarter and don't always remember names right off the bat. All those
7th graders begin to look a like; cute as a button, 4 foot nothing tall. I
think I am running low on RAM memory or something after 25+ years of
I also call my kids "Ladies and Gentlemen" when I announce that I want their
attention, when it's time to start work or time to stop and clean up.
Respect is a two-way street. I seldom have problems with disrespectful
behavior. But hey, I'm a middle aged woman with a well-honed evil teacher
glare and an overly dramatic manner!!
Alix E. Peshette
Emerson Junior High School
"Every artist was first an amateur."
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
From: Artystyc3@aol.com [mailto:Artystyc3@aol.com]
Sent: Friday, July 25, 2003 6:05 AM
To: ArtsEdNet Talk
Subject: Re: Speaking of respect...
In a message dated 7/24/03 11:26:14 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
This is true, Becky, but I wish teachers would not expect those answers
Maam, etc.) from a student in order to think they were being respectful.
can tell by tone of voice how respectful a person is, ya know?!
Idus in southern Mississippi
Children rise to the level of respect that you have for
yourself and others.
In my opinion, a major part of the problem is that we ask ( or TRAIN) so
little of them, and that's exactly what we get. I was raised to show adults
and those in authority respect by my attitude and the way I addressed them.
There is nothing wrong with requesting that your students say" Yes, Maam"
etc. I also say the same thing to them. I treat them the way I wish to be
treated. And I expect nothing short of respectful behavior in my classroom
expressed to everyone.
They are surprised at first. But it works very well for me and I don't get
( more than once......) If you curse, use slang , and behave like a street
it shows a lack of respect for not only those around you, but for your
This is not unusual behavior, it is expected if your to acheive ANY
position of respect or responsibility in life. Think of those who have won
your respect? What are you willing to invest in them so that they are
properly trained? I've had them come back to me and say, " Ms. D, I love
your class the best because we can talk and don't get cut down...by anyone."
An advocate of civil behavior-Patti in Fl. , mother of three.