In a message dated 7/11/01 8:06:17 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
<< My daughter also went through that 'black faze'. I was
appalled...black walls..are you joking? Then I came to
realizaton that the teenage years are a time of deep
It is great that you were able to see this. I have always "picked my
battles" with my daughter, especially going through that "grunge, punk faze"
many go through in highschool. "Dye a purple streak in her hair"....ok
"Dress in black everyday"...ok "Listen to punk music".....ok As long as
her attitude, grades, and important stuff remained normal I turned the other
way as to how she looked on the outside, or what posters and decorations she
enhanced her room with. She went to college, majored in art and is now a
successful graphic designer in the theater. Her room is decorated with a
beautiful 4 poster bed, lavender walls, and tons of stuffed "bunnies" she has
collected. What a change, but she still remains the beautiful "inside and
out" daughter because I "picked my battles" ignoring the unimportant
directions in her life.