One of the ideas I use when I have a disruptive student at the elementary
level is to have the student write a paragraph describing his behavior and
what he did wrong. No apologies. No blaming others--strictly describing
The second paragraph tells why it was wrong and how it was not beneficial
to the student and his classmates.
The third paragraph makes a plan of action as to how the student will
handle the situation again.
Then I have them address an envelope to their parents, sign and date the
writing assignment. If they can stay out of trouble for 30 days, they can
have their assignment back. If they get into further trouble, I get out a
stamp and mail the letter with a note requesting a conference. In 15
years I have only had to mail one.