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Re: Please cry for my students -- I did

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From: Frances Marze (fmaiu_at_TeacherArtExchange)
Date: Tue Dec 04 2001 - 18:52:45 PST


I msut have missed somethings but I feel for your distress. Isn't there
anything you can do? Don't you have a union in your school? This isn't right
at all.HOwever, here is advice given to us by union people: Be careful with
administrators, school board, etc. They may be friendly but not on the same
page as we are with some things. I wish you could have taken a leave of
absence for health and had some advice of union and/or union lawyer.
Fran

----- Original Message -----
From: "Judy Decker" <Jdecker@woh.rr.com>
To: "ArtsEdNet Talk" <artsednet@lists.getty.edu>
Sent: Tuesday, December 04, 2001 7:12 PM
Subject: Please cry for my students -- I did

> I have given up the fight. My students are very important to me. They
> wanted to see me cry and I cried for my students -- I cried for our
> district.
>
> I went back in a picked up a few things that I do not want to leave
behind.
> I am tired of trying to find a reason for me to stay when they seem to
> support a man who can not be trusted to tell the truth. He even betrayed a
> trust I had in a school board member. I shared some things and asked her
to
> keep it quiet (she had before). I was ready to put myself on the line if
> negotiations didn't go well. He told me today that she spoke to him that I
> was meddling in negotiations! Not true. I care so much for these kids that
> I don't want their quality teachers to walk out because the teachers do
not
> get respect. I told her that if our team was not treated with respect in
> negotiations and was not satisfied with the package -- that I would share
> all with the board. THAT is the main reason I was removed from school.
> The super thinks I am unstable and unfit to teach. He wants me to go to a
> psychiatric evaluation with the therapist that nearly ruined me a year
ago.
> The super believes he can control my thoughts -- my freedoms -- If his
> decisions are truly made through god as mine are -- then I really fear for
> our school system -- Who is his god? He would not allow me to forgive him.
> I forgive to keep myself from getting angry. But I guess I have done all I
> can.
>
> It is deja vue all over again. I am not permitted to talk to any members
of
> our staff --- I am certainly not permitted to talk to any board
> members...And I am not permitted to go anywhere near the school. He did at
> least allow me to go back and get a few things...But I still need to get
my
> son's chair. I didn't have room for that in my van.
>
> I prayed and prayed that I was doing the right thing and that I was right
> where I was supposed to be..... Since I felt angry when I went back to get
> my things -- I was upset with my God -- I wept -- but I guess I must move
> on. I am meeting with an attorney Friday and will only agree to leave if I
> get the rest of my contract paid. I WILL not go to that therapist
> again..... I trust my girlfriend/sister so much more than I trust that
> doctor! She told me he would "send me up the river" -- and I knew exactly
> what she meant! My sister is VICTORIOUS..... and Jewish. I trust her
> completely. She is a sister. Folks you have to know who to trust....and
you
> definitely trust your real family first. She was my maid of honor too. I
am
> not permitted to say anything to a board member -- but you don't want to
> mess with the wrath of Victorious....Although I have been helping her deal
> with anger.
>
> He chose a therapist HE could trust -- not one I could trust. I have one
> that I am talking to Saturday -- appointment was made long ago -- just to
> close out the books with her. Her advice will also be to leave. She knows
I
> am fighting a losing battle as long as I stay in that district. I won't
> even wonder any more.
>
> I feel now that god may have a greater mission for me -- perhaps in these
> weeks before Christmas he will reveal it to me. I have always wanted to be
> an art teacher -- I had no other dreams (except for world peace --- but we
> all have that one).
>
> I will still pray for my students..... I love them --- but I do love my
> family here more.
>
> Judy Decker
>
>
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