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Trained from an early age by fathers, older brothers, other boys and society
to hide their sensitivity, Dr. Pollack believes that boys learn the only
appropriate emotion to express is anger… and that anger is often expressed in
"Men and boys have feelings just like girls and women," says Dr. Pollack. The
problem, he says, is that boys are told to keep emotions of fear and sadness
to themselves. Those feelings build up inside until they emerge as behavior
problems at home and school, which boys are then punished for. It's a vicious
circle for boys, one that can end with episodes of extreme violence. "Boys
who can't cry tears," he said, "end up crying bullets."