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Fw: choices : Choosing in L A

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Larry Cox (l_j_cox)
Tue, 14 Apr 1998 12:43:03 -0700

Get happy you all...Linda
-----Original Message-----
From: Larry Cox <l_j_cox>
To: Robin Jones-Mendoza <robinj>
Date: Tuesday, April 14, 1998 12:39 PM
Subject: Re: choices : Choosing in L A

>Thanks Robin:C: Great minds think alike of something like that..C:.I was
>wondering how to send out a message called "The Signs of a Happy
>Outlook"...I'll put it at the bottom of your message here. Linda
>-----Original Message-----
>From: Robin Jones-Mendoza <robinj>
>To: L_J_Cox <L_J_Cox>
>Date: Tuesday, April 14, 1998 8:53 AM
>Subject: choices
>>>>Start Your Day
>>>Read this, and let it really sink in...
>>>Then choose how you start your day tomorrow...
>>>Jerry is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood
>>>always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he
>>>doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
>>>He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed
>>>around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed
>>>was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee
>>>having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the
>>>positive side of the situation.
>>>Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry
>>>asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the
>>>How do you do it?" Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to
>>>myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good
>>>mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good
>>>Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can
>>>learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me
>>>complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out
>>>positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."
>>>"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
>>>"Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away
>>>the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to
>>>situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be
>>>a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live
>>>I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant
>>>industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought
>>>him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
>>>Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never
>>>to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning
>>>was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the
>>>safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination.
>>>robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively
>>>and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and
>>>of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of
>>>the bullets still in
>>>his body.
>>>I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he
>>>was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my
>>>I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his
>>>as the robbery took place. "the first thing that went through my mind was
>>>that I should have locked the back door, " Jerry replied.
>>>>>>"Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I
>>>could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live."
>>>"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
>>>Jerry continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I
>>>going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the
>>>expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared.
>>>In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
>>>"What did you do?" I asked.
>>>"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry.
>>>"She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes' I replied. The doctors
>>>nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath
>>>yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to
>>>Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
>>>Jerry lived to give thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also
>>>because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we
>>>the choice to live fully.
>>>Attitude, after all, is everything.
>>>You have two choices. now:
>>>1. Delete this
>>>2. Forward it to the people you care about.
>>>Hope you will choose #2.
>The signs of a happy outlook:
>1. Are seldom surprised by trouble.
>2. Look for partial solutions.
>3. Believe they have control over their future.
>4. Allow for regular renewal.
>5. Interrupt their negative trains of thought.
>6. Heighten their powers of appreciation.
>7. Use their imaginations to rehearse success.
>8. Are cheerful even when they can't be happy.
>9. Think they have an almost unlimited capacity for stretching.
>10. Build lots of love into their lives.
>11. Like to swap good news.
>12. Accept what cannot be changed.
>(From Alan McGinnis' 12 characteristics of tough-minded optimists.) Linda