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My parents never tied my shoes for me after I had learned. ( one
example) They waited patiently for me to finish. I was born (1939)
with severe brain damage and they could easily have helped "the poor
child" and made it easier on themselves. They would surely be
helping me still instead I am able to operate independently.
In college many of my dorm mates had parents who constantly helped
by picking up and delivering laundry, running errands, bringing food,
and controlling decisions rather than offering advice. I noticed
these kids wanted to make decisions for themselves and were sneaky ,
did not seek adult advice and made stupid mistakes. They didn't want
parents to interfere but they weren't willing to give up all the
favors that went along. We had many discussions about this conflict.
I was always comfortable asking council from my family because they
gave opinions and insisted that I decide for myself. There were times
I would have liked for them to make it easy for me and choose. If I
started whimpering in that direction someone would remind me that It
was my decision and they would be there to celebrate with me if all
went well and to support me if I took a nosedive.
Since this is the way I was raised I would naturally approach teaching
this way. I don't mean that the students make all the decisions.
There are decisions that are mine and decisions that are theirs. I am
very clear which is which. It is a good feeling to watch a child who
is pampered at home become more and more independent.
From: "frecklesspot" <frecklesspot>
Subject: Powerful statement
Date: Wed, Apr 12, 2000, 10:03 PM
"I mention this because there is a correlation between this and
teachers who draw on students work. Some do because they want to be
helpful and the help is misguided, and others do it because they need
to be needed. Either way it creates helpless students and that is not
what we are about. Accomplishment is empowering."
I have always felt this way. I feel it is very important for students
to "own" their artwork. Thanks for the support
Judy in OK
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